Gone forever – my lovely girls


‘‘I have nothing left to live for,’’ heartbroken Jean de Villiers says on the verge of tears. ‘‘A big part of me died with them.’’

He’s talking of his daughters, Ingrid (14) and Gisela (13), who were shot dead in their beds by their mother, Michelle (41), a few days before Easter. Michelle then lay between them and shot herself, dying in hospital a few hours later.
‘‘We were the three musketeers; I loved spoiling them,’’ says 49-year-old Jean, who was divorced from Michelle five years ago. ‘‘I can’t believe we’ll never play squash again, go to a concert or have a braai together.’’

The triple tragedy shocked the peaceful community of De Doorns in the foothills of the Matroosberg, especially as people in the small Hex River Valley community hadn’t seen it coming.

On the surface Michelle appeared to be a successful woman with two lovely, talented daughters who did well at school.

She seemed to have done well with a sportswear range she had designed and was receiving orders. But unknown to friends she battled with financial and emotional disappointments.

She insisted no one could look after her kids as well as she could. ‘‘She wanted to go to God,’’ a friend says, ‘‘but not without her children.’’

On Jean’s last weekend with the girls they played squash, ate out and just hung out. ‘‘My children were stylish, elegant and unique,’’ he says proudly through his grief. ‘‘Ingrid was my little lady, Gisela my tomboy. I always tried my best to see them, even if I popped in for only five minutes. They were my two princesses. They had such a bright future.

‘‘Their mom was devoted to them and gave them a balanced upbringing. Michelle and I had recently become pals again and I never suspected she was so desperate.’’

Michelle was creative and full of initiative, a friend says. She had hoped her sportswear would bring in money from February – there had been large orders but she couldn’t find a factory to deliver on time.

Read the full article in the 15 April issue of YOU



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Comments (8)


  1. Carike
    2010/04/26 01:15:52 PM
    I'm sorry, but I hope this woman burns in Hell for eternity! She has taken the lives of two beautiful young girls who had their whole lives ahead of them. As a mother of two young sons I also sometimes feel as if it's all getting a bit much, but I would never, EVER do something like that to my children. If she wanted so badly to be with God, then go for it, just leave the children with their dad you selfish cow!! Just imagine for a second, which one did she shoot first? What must the other little girl have been thinking watching her mother kill her sister? This is sick!! She doesn't belong in heaven and has bought herself a one way ticket to hell.. enjoy!
  2. Sharon Gün
    2010/04/21 02:28:42 PM
    I disagree with Dee. Clearly the demons of depression & anxiety had overwhelmed Michelle. Yet she was still clinging onto that one string of hope saying that she wanted to go to God. This act was not from God. You are in our thoughts & prayers Jean - God is with you.
  3. Dee
    2010/04/20 09:30:12 AM
    Religion.... Kills folks dead.
  4. Dawn
    2010/04/15 08:34:58 AM
    May the Lord give you strength during this time. Please remember there is a group called
    Compassionate Friends they help me through the death of my daughter.
  5. Velo
    2010/04/14 02:25:31 PM
    Hi Jean, so sorry for your loss, nothing replaces a childs memory and god is with you.
  6. Pepper
    2010/04/12 08:30:05 PM
    My sympathy to the family, friends and all who were affected.

    What is happening in our society that suicidal parents feel the need to take their children with them? Two beautiful girls with a loving father who had adequate means to take care of them were murdered. These young girls had promising futures and their whole lives ahead of them. We brought our children into the world but that doesn't mean that we can play God and expect our despair to be their despair, and our failures to be theirs - none of us has the right to take our childrens tomorrows.

    May the Lord have mercy on this mom.
  7. Pamela
    2010/04/12 03:35:59 PM
    Jean, that is just so heartbreaking. May God be with you and help you through this difficult time. Will be keeping you in my thoughts.

    Pamela
  8. Nadia
    2010/04/09 12:36:52 PM
    This brings me to tears. Stay strong Jean!
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